Everything But A Groom©

All Eyes Are On You- So Be Gracious

It is your big day. You are surrounded by decisions, questions and all those you love. You want to enjoy  this day. You want your soon to be husband to enjoy his day too. It is after all, your BIG day.

The sheer excitement of the day can be overwhelming. Combine that with the stress that a wedding can bring and it can turn even the most composed girl into a raving lunatic.

Television shows such as "Bridezilla's" haves glamourized the depressingly bad behaviour of today's Brides.  Follow a few basic rules and remember count to ten and take a deep breath before you react.

**Everyone will be looking at you so be prepared. Realize that with every question and or the uncommon wedding emergency, you will be the go to girl. They make ask others such as the Mother of the Bride, your Maid or Matron of Honor first, but lets face it ladies you are the decision maker. Do not kill the messenger. Resolve the situation as best as possible, with as little fuss and muss as possible. This does not mean perfection just a resolution.

**Remember that your wedding day is all about you marrying the person you love, not that the roses are a specific shade of pink or that the hemline of the bridal party are not straight. Do not get so lost in the details that you can't enjoy the purpose of the day.

**Loose the attitude. Yes it is your big day, but (yes BUT), it is also your groom's big day and a huge day in the life of both yours and his parents. Remember to be gracious and grateful. It is not all about YOU.

**Things will not go your way all day. There will be distasters. There will be problems with this or that. Do not expect perfection, rather expect the unexpected. Now I am a planner. That means I like to have a plan and a back up plan just in case. Now please do not expect the Plan B theory to be 100% full proof. Sometimes you need Plan C, D and yep sometimes Plan E and F. I just want you to be prepared for less than perfect. Now it might turn out just as planned and truthfully I hope for you that it does, but chances are that it won't. So be prepared, composed, ready

**Memories are made today. You will be remembered and known for all time and eternity by those you know and the new family and friends you will most definately meet on that big day. Pictures will capture the smile. Memories will caprture the fit you throw because your Cousin decided to change the seating arrangements or because the photographer was 20 minutes late. Even in the face of a disaster remember to treat others with tact and grace. You can still be firm and express your displeasure without acting like a spoiled rotten 8 year old brat.

**I personally feel the phrase "because I deserve it" is ONLY to be used in a haircolor commercial not in everyday life and certainly not in your wedding day.

It is your big day. It is his big day. Both Mothers of the Bride and Groom are smiling (hopefully) the Fathers of the Bride and Groom are unnaturally emotional and you WILL BE the most gracious gal in the room.

Have a Happy Wedding!

Carolyn